If our goal as humans is to evolve, then we need to think. We should incorporate our spirituality and our responsibilities toward each other, ourselves, and our planet. We should be open to new information that can help us mentally, physically, materially, and spiritually. We should be balancing our lives materially and spiritually. We should be living our lives with love and without fear.
A grandfather was talking to his grandson about a negative experience he had early in his life. The grandfather was saying. “At the time, I had two bears growling inside of me. The first bear was filled with anger, hatred, bitterness, and mostly revenge. The second bear inside of me was filled with love, kindness, compassion, and mostly forgiveness.”
“Which bear wins”? The young boy inquired. The grandfather responded: “The one I feed.”
Deserving has more to do with what we send out in the form of thoughts, feelings, words, and deeds than it does with how smart we are. The energy we send out is the energy we get back. The energy we send out reflects what we feel.
It’s the feelings that create the energy we send out. Reality can be nothing more than the result of how we have been flowing our energy. It only takes 16 seconds to link up vibrationally with negative or positive energy.
We can look at ourselves and at others as campfires. When building a campfire or trying to get one restarted we can pile on the firewood, stick a piece of paper or a few twigs under the larger pieces of wood, light the paper with a match, and hope to get a fire going. Usually if we try to jump from the tiny to the large the large never gets going and so it is with our campfire.
Usually, we need to nourish the tiny flame or we will find ourselves complaining about the stubborn large pieces that just won’t cooperate, just won’t burn. We too end up with a little smoke and it cost us a match and, we have to start all over again.
To get a campfire to burn we need to build from tiny to small to medium to large and it all starts with nourishing the tiny hot spot. We take a deep breath and blow on this tiny hot spot while we nourish it with twigs and then kindling. When the kindling starts to burn we add pieces that are just a little larger, and we keep repeating this making sure the little fire gets hotter by fanning it and feeding it. Eventually we have a big campfire and once we do we can throw the big logs on it and it will thrive even more.
And instead of mocking other campfires that can’t seem to get going we should not be looking and seeing only the campfire and the wood that is not burning; we should be looking for and seeing the hot spot that we can help fan and feed with just a little fuel here and there. We are all powerful and we can help others get their fires burning and we can get our own fires burning if we just start with our hot spots and continuously nourish them with breath and the appropriate sized fuel. If a log is thrown on too soon it will not burn and it could smother a campfire that is trying to get started.
To say another way lets think like race car drivers. They know the best way to get past cars and debris that have crashed in front of them. Instead of looking at the cars spinning out of control and piling up in front of them they immediately look for an opening and put their entire attention upon this opening and drive through it. Sometimes the opening is small and not even obvious but whatever opening that seems to exist that is where they look.
We have a choice and it is to focus on the crash or to focus on our safe passage. If we freeze our stare and concentration on the crash we add to the crash because that is all we saw and it pulled us in. If we can find that one opening, that one opportunity, fan and nourish that one hotspot, and put our entire attention and sight on it, we will zip past the crash. Those behind us can follow us into new opportunity or become part of the crash and likewise some will follow us into the crash if that is where we focused.
If a leader were to build a campfire that speaks of violence, hate, racism, anger, fear or one that mocks others, puts negative labels on opponents, there will be those that will be attracted to those flames and act out hidden and repressed feelings.
Evidence of an evolved leader’s greatest quality is the type of campfire he builds and nurtures. It would be one that tries to bring us together by helping us calm our darkest selves and light our brightest selves.
Freud and Jung tell us the contents of the subconscious perpetually seep into conscious awareness. Eventually they came to realize that when rage, lust, revenge, etc. are denied access to the civilized conscious mind, they do not disappear but continue to live out an entirely independent psychic existence in the subconscious. There they drain away energy from the conscious system, causing depression, anxiety, neurosis, phobias, etc., or else they erupt as physical symptoms, irrational moods, or slips of the tongue.
Both Carl Jung and Sigmund Freud concurred on this fundamental picture of the human psyche:
that each of us carries within us a whole other world, shadowy and fantastic, to be sure, but teemingly alive with inner figures, melodramas, grievances and fears, that are constantly exerting their influence over our every word and deed.
So while it feels that we have a clean conscious mind, a civilized conscious mind, that mind can be corrupted.
It is so important to have a leader that brings out the best of ourselves and not the worst.