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Metaphysical Things I Think I Know

Self-Observation Is Powerful.

Our behaviors, habits, tendencies, first reactions, biases, prejudices, etc. can be changed if we observe them, look for their roots, and are open to new ideas that help us evolve and not stagnate.

Attractiveness Can Be Increased

I have become aware that I can become more attractive; that enthusiasm, energy, passion are as important, if not more so, than physical attractiveness.

Time Only Moves Forward

While I have enjoyed much of my life to date, learned from my experiences, and still squirm when thoughts recall blunders, I have learned that time will move on without me if I don’t keep up. Its easier to keep up if I pull up the anchor.

Anger

I am aware that anger can be addictive and unlike anxiety, shame or depression, it drives us towards the object of our arousal. Our brains become out of balance when we get angry as our left hemisphere is strongly activated. That causes us to use simple logic because the context processing right hemisphere didn’t keep up.

The angrier we get, the more we lose our ability to process subtlety and nuance. Reality comes to be seen in simplistic, good-or-bad, all-or-nothing perspectives. Other people come to be seen as ‘stupid’ or ‘evil’ for having differing opinions. All kinds of neutral events are seen with paranoia, as intentional threats.

Balancing Spiritualism and Materialism

Material prosperity without spirituality leads to greed, lack of inner and outer peace, and war. Spirituality without material development leads to poverty and famine.

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Wealth and Health; Happiness and Money

Happiness and Money

I have found additional peace from learning that lots of money doesn’t increase happiness after reading a 2010 Princeton study that found that happiness plateaus at a household income of $75,000 a year on average in America with some states higher like California ($90,000) and some lower according to a follow up study by the Huffington Post.

The last words of Steve Jobs –
I have come to the pinnacle of success in business.
In the eyes of others, my life has been the symbol of success.
However, apart from work, I have little joy. Finally, my wealth is simply a fact to which I am accustomed.

At this time, lying on the hospital bed and remembering all my life, I realize that all the accolades and riches of which I was once so proud, have become insignificant with my imminent death.

In the dark, when I look at green lights, of the equipment for artificial respiration and feel the buzz of their mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of my approaching death looming over me.
Only now do I understand that once you accumulate enough money for the rest of your life, you have to pursue objectives that are not related to wealth.

It should be something more important:
For example, stories of love, art, dreams of my childhood.
No, stop pursuing wealth, it can only make a person into a twisted being, just like me.

God has made us one way, we can feel the love in the heart of each of us, and not illusions built by fame or money, like I made in my life, I cannot take them with me.
I can only take with me the memories that were strengthened by love.
This is the true wealth that will follow you; will accompany you; will give strength and light to go ahead.

Love can travel thousands of miles and so life has no limits. Move to where you want to go. Strive to reach the goals you want to achieve. Everything is in your heart and in your hands.

What is the world’s most expensive bed? The hospital bed.  You, if you have money, you can hire someone to drive your car, but you cannot hire someone to take your illness that is killing you.  Material things lost can be found. But one thing you can never find when you lose: life.
Whatever stage of life where we are right now, at the end we will have to face the day when the curtain falls.

Please treasure your family love, love for your spouse, love for your friends…
Treat everyone well and stay friendly with your neighbors.

Metaphysical Health


Self Healing

In 1995, the National Institute of Health reported that meditation and visualization and other relaxation techniques are often better treatment for a variety of illnesses than is drugs & surgery.

I have learned that each of us have three billion letters describing our genetic code or DNA and 99.9% of those letters are identical within all of us. What makes us unique as individuals is a combination of environmental effects and genetic variations mostly consisting of changes to single letters of DNA scattered throughout each of our genome.  (Source:  Creation of Health: Merging Traditional Medicine with Intuitive Diagnosis by C. Norman Shealy and Caroline M. Myss). 

This may explain how genes program some of us to one day face cancer or heart disease and why minuscule differences in our DNA could explain why some people respond positively to certain drugs while others do not.  We can stack illness contributors on top of each other and that stack can teeter and collapse at any time but the higher the stack the more unstable it is.  Start with genetic code, add smoking, then lack of exercise, poor diet, excess weight, exposure to germs and bacteria, and finally our emotions and it is usually when we add our emotions anywhere in the stack that it falls depending on how much stress is packed into those emotions.

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Morals–Short and Sweet One-Liners

Harvey Mackay:  “Occasionally I compile a list of my favorite morals from the past couple of years.  Be my guest to share them!”  Considered them shared.  Thanks.

  • Whatever you’re selling, you’re selling yourself first.
  • Don’t presume what you assume is correct.
  • If you live by a great value system, your life will have great value.
  • Accountability is the ability to accept responsibility.
  • You are only as happy as you decide to be.
  • To be a standout, you must stand for only your best.
  • Some of the best lessons we ever learned, we learned from our mistakes and failures.
  • A sense of humor is almost as important as our other five senses.
  • Be respectful or be regretful.
  • Don’t let excess stress get in the way of extreme success.
  • Teamwork divides the task and multiplies the success.
  • Even if you can’t achieve perfection, you should never stop trying.
  • Unhappiness always seeks to get.  Happiness always seeks to give.
  • If you want to have the time of your life, make the most of your minutes.
  • Great brainstorms should produce plenty of en-lightning!
  • If you are persistent, you will get it.  If you are consistent, you will keep it.
  • Clean up your act, or be prepared to clean out your desk.
  • Your job is always to make someone else’s job easier.
  • You can’t buy confidence, but you can sell it!
  • Parents teach lessons even when they think no one is watching.
  • You are only one question away from success, if it’s the right question.
  • Negotiation is not just about winning, it’s about win-win.
  • A little hiccup won’t end your career, but be careful not to let it choke you.
  • Confidence is keeping your chin up.  Overconfidence is sticking your neck out.
  • Optimists are people who make the best of it when they get the worst of it.
  • Persuasion is an art.  The tongue can paint what the eye can’t see.
  • Talk is cheap, but misunderstandings can be costly.
  • Let curiosity turn “I don’t know” into “I want to find out.”
  • The biggest mistake you can make is pretending that you didn’t make one.
  • When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at often change.
  • When you talk to yourself, make sure you listen carefully.
  • Don’t let your fears get in your head – get ahead of them.
  • Take control of your attitude before it takes control of you.
  • Don’t worry about what you could do if you lived your life over; get busy with what’s left.
  • A little spark can lead to a blazing success.
  • You don’t have to uproot the whole tree to turn over a new leaf.
  • Vision without action is a daydream.  Action without vision is a nightmare.
  • Optimal customer service is not optional.
  • Don’t let your mood turn into your doom.
  • The hardest sale you’ll ever make is to yourself.  But once you’re convinced you can do it, you can.
  • When life tests your mettle, nothing succeeds like an iron will.
  • Solving employee turnover is easier when they own a piece of the pie.
  • Selling isn’t rocket science – it’s people science.
  • Humor is more than funny business.
  • The friendships you cultivate will help you grow.
  • It’s just as easy to look for the good things in life as the bad.
  • Make your stumbling blocks your stepping stones.
  • Admitting your own weaknesses is a sign of strength.
  • Hope is what allows us to remember yesterday’s disappointments and still look forward to tomorrow.

Re-imagining Ourselves

We could ask someone for advise and they could tell us what we need to do differently but that  would be a waste of time.  Why? Because the person we seek advise from can’t change our behavior through reasoned argument.

Edgar Cayce:  “…There are no individuals who haven’t at some time been warned as respecting that that may arise in their daily or physical existence!  Have they heeded?  Do they heed to that as may be given as advice?  No!  It must be experienced!”  Edgar Cayce: “that which comes or begins first is conceived in spirit, grows in the mental, manifests in the material”.  

How do we go about re-imagining ourselves?  We can look at ourselves and at others as campfires.  When building a campfire or trying to get one restarted we can pile on the firewood, stick a piece of paper or a few twigs under the larger pieces of wood, light the paper with a match, and hope to get a fire going.  Usually if we try to jump from the tiny to the large the large never gets going and so it is with our campfire.

If our campfires magically seem to jump from tiny to large we might mock other campfires that are small or just mostly smoke.  We might not even realize how we got our campfires to burn.

Usually, we need to nourish the tiny flame or we will find ourselves complaining about the stubborn large pieces that just won’t cooperate, just won’t burn.  We too end up with a little smoke and it cost us a match and, we have to start all over again.

To get a campfire to burn we need to build from tiny to small to medium to large and it all starts with nourishing the tiny hot spot.  We take a deep breath and blow on this tiny hot spot while we nourish it with twigs and then kindling.  When the kindling starts to burn we add pieces that are just a little larger, and we keep repeating this making sure the little fire gets hotter by fanning it and feeding it.  Eventually we have a big campfire and once we do we can throw the big logs on it and it will thrive even more.

And instead of mocking other campfires that can’t seem to get going we should not be looking and seeing only the campfire and the wood that is not burning; we should be looking for and seeing the hot spot that we can help fan and feed with just a little fuel here and there.  We are all powerful and we can help others get their fires burning and we can get our own fires burning if we just start with our hot spots and continuously nourish them with breath and the appropriate sized fuel.  If a log is thrown on too soon it will not burn and it could smother a campfire that is trying to get started.

To say another way lets think like race car drivers.  They know the best way to get past cars and debris that have crashed in front of them.  Instead of looking at the cars spinning out of control and piling up in front of them they immediately look for an opening and put their entire attention upon this opening and drive through it.  Sometimes the opening is small and not even obvious but whatever opening that seems to exist that is where they look.

We have a choice and it is to focus on the crash or to focus on our safe passage.  If we freeze our stare and concentration on the crash we add to the crash because that is all we saw and it pulled us in.  If we can find that one opening, that one opportunity, fan and nourish that one hotspot, and put our entire attention and sight on it, we will zip past the crash.  Those behind us can follow us into new opportunity or become part of the crash and likewise some will follow us into the crash if that is where we focused.

We need to realize  that our thoughts, our internal dialog, do more to anchor us to where we are than something outside of ourselves; that deserving has more to do with what we send out in the form of thoughts, feelings, words, and deeds than it does with how smart we are.  The energy we send out is the energy we get back. The energy we send out reflects what we feel and that influences what we do, and what we do is who we are.

It’s the feelings that create the energy we send out.  Reality can be nothing more than the result of how we have been flowing our energy.  It only takes 16 seconds to link up vibrationally with negative or positive energy.

Leadership Traits–The Concept of Self-Actualization

The Concept of Self-Actualization

Let’s let Maslow help us with this question of leadership traits. Maslow picked out a group of people whom he felt clearly met the standard of what he called self-actualized.  Included in this group were Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Jefferson, Albert Einstein, Eleanor Roosevelt, Jane Adams, William James, Albert Schweitzer, Benedict Spinoza, and Alduous Huxley, plus 12 unnamed people who were alive at the time Maslow did his research. He developed a list of qualities that seemed characteristic of these people.

  • These people could differentiate what is fake and dishonest from what is real and genuine.
  • They treated life’s difficulties as problems demanding solutions, not as personal troubles to be railed at or surrendered to.
  • They felt that the ends don’t necessarily justify the means–the journey was often more important than the destination.
  • They enjoyed solitude, were comfortable being alone, enjoyed deeper personal relations with a few close friends and family members, rather than more shallow relationships with many people.
  • They enjoyed autonomy and were not susceptible to social pressure to be well adjusted or to fit in.
  • They preferred to joke at their own expense or at the human condition instead of directing their humor at others.
  • They had a quality he called acceptance of self and others.   This same acceptance applied to their attitudes towards themselves.
  • They enjoyed their personal quirks if they were not harmful and they were motivated to change negative qualities in themselves that could be changed.
  • They preferred being themselves rather than being pretentious or artificial.
  • They had a sense of humility and respect towards others, were open to ethnic and individual variety, even treasuring it.
  • They had a quality Maslow called human kinship accompanied by strong ethics, which was spiritual but seldom conventionally religious in nature.
  • They tended to see ordinary things with wonder and from this were creative, inventive, and original.
  • And, finally, these people tended to have more experiences that made them feel very tiny, or very large, to some extent one with life or nature or God.

These people were not this way all the time so they still had some work to do at their soul level.  For example, while they were not neurotic, some did experience anxiety and guilt and some were absentminded and overly kind and some experienced unexpected moments of ruthlessness, surgical coldness, and loss of humor.

Their values were natural and seemed to flow effortlessly from their personalities.  Maslow also defined self-actualizers by identifying their needs in order to be happy.  Here is his list.

  1. Truth,
  2. Goodness
  3. Beauty
  4. Unity
  5. Aliveness
  6. Uniqueness
  7. Perfection and necessity
  8. Completion
  9. Justice and order
  10. Simplicity.
  11. Richness
  12. Effortlessness
  13. Playfulness
  14. Self-sufficiency
  15. Meaningfulness

Maslow believes that much of the what is wrong with the world comes down to the fact that very few people really are interested in these values — not because they are bad people, but because they haven’t even had their basic needs taken care of and, when forced to live without these values, the self-actualizer develops depression, despair, disgust, alienation, and a degree of cynicism.

I would say that the characteristics of Maslow’s self actualizers would be good characteristics of leaders and I would add that to the extent people had these characteristics, they would be good leaders.

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